Sad news...

Court was on Friday.  Unfortunately all three girls choose not to be adopted.  I have had to keep quiet on what has been happening, but now am free to write about it.  The girls' mother lost her rights to them four years ago after horribly abusing them.  Sadly the orphanage director let her be in communication with the girls during our attempt to adopt.  She was even allowed at one point to come talk to them to convince them not to be adopted.  It worked at first, but then the girls choose to proceed with adoption.  It is against Ukrainian law, and common sense, to allow a parent whose rights have been terminated to communicate with the child.  The girls' mother told them that she would come and get them out.  At court Lyuba stated that her mother had said that and that her mother would not lie.  We know that Lyuba's dream has been to be adopted, but of course her number one dream would be to have her mother take them back from the orphanage.  That won't happen, but Lyuba doesn't realize it, although our facilitator and translator have talked extensively about that to her.  The judge was concerned about Lyuba's decision to not be adopted and told her that her mother had poisoned her mind.  That someday when it will be too late Lyuba will realize she made the wrong decision.  Lyuba still stuck with her decision and the other two girls followed her.

We are okay, but heartbroken for the girls.  We have had inspiration and miracles happen in association with the adoption that it is hard to believe this is how it ends for them.  I plan to do a write up of our entire experience with the adoption here in Ukraine.  I am so worn out from it all right now, but plan to do it soon.  Before I couldn't write much about the separation process for fear of the orphanages reading the blog and messing up the adoption.  Then I couldn't say much about when court was going to be in the chance that the girls' mother would catch wind and come or send their older sister.  The older sister still did manage to come to court and influence the girls.  We are now in Odessa waiting to go home.  Our returns flights were scheduled for May 4th from the beginning and we can't find earlier flights to take.

Things are going well here.  We have been able to visit the girls every day since we arrived back from Lviv.  They are happy and doing well.  Court is coming up soon and we are excited to be at that point in the process.  After court there is a 10 day waiting period before we can pick up the girls.  Then we will have about two weeks here in Ukraine to get their birth certificates, passports and other paperwork.  Because things up to this point here in Ukraine have taken longer than we anticipated we have decided to go home soon after court until school lets out for the summer at the end of May.  Then we will come back to Ukraine to pick up the girls.  We will be able to visit with our kids at home who miss us a lot and who we miss, we will be able to attend our son's high school graduation, see our new grandson who is due any day now, get our house and yard ready to bring the girls home to and we will be able to leave Sara and Sam home while just Jay and I return to pick up the girls which will make travel and lodging in Ukraine a lot easier.

Because things have taken a few weeks longer than we anticipated, and who knows for sure how long things will take when we come back, we have decided to fund raise a little more by selling some of the fun things we have found here in Ukraine.  We are trying to raise $3500, the cost of our tickets to return to Ukraine.  After court we will post more information about the items for sale.

Blossoms are now on the trees at the orphanage.

We discovered lots of puppies.  Lyuba fed them part of her dinner.

Sara and Lyuba

Sam, who loves absolutely loves any dog, is in heaven with all of the puppies here.

Lyuba, Sam and puppy

Getting closer

We have been here in Ukraine for about six weeks now.  Most of the time has been spent waiting interspersed with appointments.  Court is getting closer.  I still can't give out much information about it because of what is happening behind the scenes.  Eventually I'll write more of the details.  Thankfully we are seeing progress and know that our court date is drawing nearer.

Most of the time we have spent in Balta, a town of just under 20,000 people.  We seem to have become well known there.  There is some kind of joke going around about our 6 year old son being a better English speaker than any of the Balta residents.  Our taxi driver thought the joke was hilarious!  We have also started recognizing and being greeted by different people when we go to the market.  As much as we have enjoyed Balta, last week we decided that we really needed a break, so we booked a train compartment to Lviv and have been in Lviv for almost a week.  It is a gorgeous city and has been a nice diversion for us.  Tomorrow night we head back to Balta.

The girls are doing well.  We had a talk with them a few days before we left Balta about what to expect in America with our family.  We discussed some of the rules that our family lives by.  We strongly feel that the girls should have some kind of an understanding what they are getting into.  Lyuba and Snezhana already had a pretty good idea of the rules because they lived with us for five weeks last summer.  But we could see that plans were being made for things that we are not going to allow!  All three of them seem to still plan on being adopted.

Overnight train to Lviv.

Galician restaurant.  I love being inside these medieval buildings!

Sara eating her Galician pie.

Part of the old wall and tower surrounding old Lviv.

One of many beautiful cathedrals in this city.

Our apartment building.

Our apartment the three windows on the floor just under the top floor.

View from our apartment of Market Square.

Home from an outdoor folk museum in Lviv.

Inside of a 1977 home at the folk museum.

There are several of these "golden" people on Market Square each day.

We took a ride on this bicycle contraption one night.  It was really wild!

Another old city wall and tower.  A restaurant is now located in this tower.

I thought it was so cool to see cobblestone being re-layed.

Salo - Ukrainian's favorite!  Pork fat.  I have had some on bread!

Another view from our apartment.  We picked the most entertaining

corner of Market Square.  We are serenaded each night.

Separation is approved!

We heard from our facilitator that separation is approved!  After some paperwork is submitted, separation will be finalized.  Then we wait approximately 10 days before we go to court with the girls.  After that there will be a 10 day waiting period.  Then we take the girls out of their orphanage.  They can't wait for that day!

A day in the life of the crazy Americans... 

Our days are pretty slow with not a lot to do.  A usual day follows.  We wake up late for us, about 9 to 10 a.m.  We're becoming lazy!  Then we will shop for groceries if needed and explore Balta a little more.  We read and play games and cook our meals.  Then about 2:30 p.m. our translator comes by and we travel 17 miles to the girls' internat (boarding school).  We have a driver who drives us.  We visit with the girls for 1 hour and 15 minutes (used to be 2 hours until director cut the time down.)  We work on their English, give them a snack and then, if it's warm enough, go outside and play on the playground.  The girls love to play tag with us - doesn't require a lot of words and they have a lot of energy.  The person who is it is called "salo" (pork fat) and when they go to tag someone they might say "Privet salo" (Hello pork fat.)  It is so funny.  Thank goodness I have been running, although you'd never guess if you took a look at me that I ran a half marathon almost a year ago!  Then we are driven back to our hotel where we might shop if we didn't earlier and need groceries, make dinner and then read or play games.  We'll stay up until about 11 p.m.  We want to go to bed earlier, but the pizza place next door is busy, loud and open until 11.

A lot of little things happen throughout the days.  For example, one day we decided to deal with our light at night situation.  The pizza place next door leaves a light on at night that shines directly into our bedroom window only about 10 feet away.  Our curtains aren't thick enough to stop enough of the light so we put up a couple of our empty suitcases on the window sill.  We laughed to ourselves that people would think we are crazy.  The suitcases block the light a little, but the window is big and rises far above the suitcases!  So we took our translator over to the pizza place and spoke with the owner about it.  Come to find out he owns the hotel too!  He told us to shut our curtains.  We told him that we do, but it's not enough so we had put up the suitcases.  At that point he told our translator that he had thought we were crazy Americans when he saw the suitcases in the window!  The owner grumbled a bit about turning off the light and said he'd do it for one night.  Thankfully it has been turned off most nights since then.

We are still plugging away at the adoption.  I can't believe it, but we've been in Ukraine three weeks now.  Things are taking a long time because the girls' case is so complicated.  I wish I could post exactly what has been going on, but I have heard that orphanages read adoptive parents' blogs so we need to be careful what we post.  We have two orphanages involved, and I don't want to take any chances.  If I feel comfortable about it when all is done, I will post more about our experiences with the adoption.

We had a meeting for seperation of the older girls from the younger ones today.  Nothing really was resolved, but some direction was given and our facilitators are working on it.  I am really hoping that separation happens this week.  We don't want to separate the girls, but from our vantage point, we can see that it may be for the best for now.  We plan to help the three older girls call their younger sisters regularly when we are all home.  They haven't had contact with them for 5 years, so that will be wonderful for them.  Then, when the opportunity opens up, we plan to begin the adoption of the younger two. 

The adoption still could fall apart for a couple reasons.  But today we feel that it will work as long as we hang on and stay in Ukraine long enough.  We also remember the inspiration we were given at the very beginning and all of the miracles that we have witnessed so far.  This gives us hope too.

For the most part we are enjoying our experiences here.  The people of Ukraine that we have met are friendly and welcoming.

Cobblestone street in Balta.

Open air market in Balta.

House that we had church in.

Well and fire wood in front of house.

 Well

 

Open air market in Balta